traditional thought with a contemporary twist
joanofarc
Published on March 22, 2004 By Joan of Arc In Home & Family
My seventeen year old son is really quite a fine young man. He hasn’t gotten into any major trouble but then, he isn’t perfect. Trouble with being were he is supposed to be when he’s supposed to be there, keeping curfew, remembering to call us to tell us where he is, are just of few of his minor besetting sins.

This past weekend he went to a retreat. We had a chat before he went and I was very clear that I wanted him to let us know where he was going afterward on Saturday. He assured me that he would be home early in the evening and we left it at that.

At 11:00, his Saturday night curfew, there had been no sign of him. No phone calls, no nothing. I was furious. Mostly because we had had this in- depth conversation about what I was expecting and here we were, ready to end our day and now we needed to be up. Why that self centered *&^#&%()^!!!!!!!!

My husband stayed up and I went to sleep. I woke at 3a.m., alone. I went to the window to look for my son’s car, no car. I got up and walked around the house but couldn’t find Paul, I thought he was asleep in our son’s bed. I was petrified.
I started to pray for safety for my son. I thought about my mom and what it must have been like for her. I was a “teenage werewolf” and my mom spent many sleepless nights wondering where I was. There in the dark I wondered, “What do you do when your child doesn’t come home? Do we go to church in the morning (my husband is a pastor) or do we stay home? Should we call the police? What will we say? Where could He be? Is he all right? What if he’s hurt or worse...........”

Lights shine in the window and I feel a flood of relief mixed with a tinge of anger-----he’s home. Whew- I hear a door open and shut but they are not his footsteps I hear, they are his father’s. I realized Paul had gone out to look for him. “Did you find him?” “No.”

Silence-------------------------------------------------------------------

Paul said, “Remember last year’s retreat? It went until Sunday”
“Oh yeah” I smiled with relief.

Comments
on Mar 22, 2004
You do indeed have an amazing son. We can all see that. I can understand how you'd feel if something were to happen to him.

Trinitie
on Mar 22, 2004
That was a short, but unnerving story, until the end of course. Pretty funny, really. I'm sure one can't fully know another just by reading about them and their writing over the internet, but I must say from what I've read he truly is something great, and you don't run into those often.

< Sarah
on Mar 22, 2004
This is starting to sound like letters from Dan's fan club, but yeah, he definitely seems like an all right guy.
on Mar 22, 2004
lol Nicky...

umm... oops? sry about that...

~Dan
on Mar 23, 2004
I have four teenagers, three of which are boys. I know exactly that sick in the gut feeling when they're not home yet, sometimes even as they leave the house.
Your story was so reminiscent of nights I've spent, in the same situation(literally!) only to find out we'd forgotten about the changed time, or the sidetrip that was planned for pizza afterward. I am so glad this was one of those "oops!" nites.

on Mar 28, 2004
I'm glad it was an "oops!" nights too.......very glad.

Trinitie
on Mar 28, 2004
You think you're glad, imagine how glad I must be:)

~Dan
on May 01, 2006
Plan to