traditional thought with a contemporary twist
Joan of Arc
Published on February 8, 2007 By Joan of Arc In Marital Issues
I have just been catapulted from the delight of delusion to the ruins of reality. The fog lifted like a two by four on the side of my incredibly thick skull and I find myself in the midst of a self forged disaster. No one to blame this time, it was totally my fault. Faced with the unenviable responsibility of informing my loved ones and colleges of my indiscretion, I pick up the phone and begin making the necessary calls. Of course, I expect the worse. “YOU WHAT???? ARE YOU SOME KIND OF IDIOT? WHAT WERE YOU THINKING????!!!!!”
But I got quite the opposite. “Oh, I see. I am so sorry. I love you. How can I help? We all have struggles.” Compassion, I received a semi-load , an out pouring of understanding, love and hope along with assurances of commitment for the long haul. I wanted to say, “did you hear what I just told you?” Yes, they heard, not with their heads but with their hearts.
I have been in the church for 23 years and I have seen all kinds of situations. I know many have been wounded deeply by the callous rule oriented religious, but, in my case, this week, the church has been a safety net of healing and hope. I just wanted to give credit where it is due.

Comments
on Feb 08, 2007
We could compare our indiscretions.

How much happier, though, that I can identify with your astonishment and gratitude and know exactly what you mean and how you feel.

I too have been in receipt of God's Grace. Most often this comes through the people who care. I too am grateful.

...and like the poet said, "Hope springs eternal."
on Feb 09, 2007
It is a humbling and difficult place to be, yet somehow I feel strangely alive. Perhaps because of that which I needed to deaden in the process of compromise.
JOA
on Feb 09, 2007
" We could compare our indiscretions.

How much happier, though, that I can identify with your astonishment and gratitude and know exactly what you mean and how you feel. "

Dr. Donald, that was beautiful. Downright quotable. A perfect comment, if it were not for one thing: when you quote Shakespeare, "Poet" is capitalized.

As for responses: when I have something to admit, I often imagine the reactions will be proportionate to the offensiveness of my crime, but this is rarely the case. Instead it is like alcohol, greater quantities only causing greater effects up to a point, but then absorbing at a constant rate no matter how much you've taken in. This is usually preferable, since it gives you time to drink some water, eat a loaf of bread, and get yourself on to a couch; but it's an awful feeling to know that you're just going to lose more and more control no matter what you do, and that until all that alcohol has been absorbed things are just going to get worse until (if you drank enough) you just die.

I guess what I'm saying is that human grace is like a cool washcloth on a sick forehead, but it takes divine grace to actually make things better.

Dan
on Feb 09, 2007
Hope springs eternal in the human breast;
Man never Is, but always To be blest:
The soul, uneasy and confin'd from home,
Rests and expatiates in a life to come.

-Alexander Pope,
An Essay on Man, Epistle I, 1733

I didn't know that about Shakespeare. Thanks. Pope probably also deserves capitalization.   

I read the Shawshank Redemption by Steven King many (13) years ago. It ended with this same quote and it was a time when I really needed to hear it. I remember having tears in my eyes because I had dared to hope against all odds. A few days later, I entered rehab. My hope was not in vain.
on Feb 09, 2007
Damn, from the title I was expected a pornographic article.
on Feb 09, 2007
thanks Mason  , sometimes human grace comes pretty damned close to divine. God bless comic relief.
on Feb 10, 2007
"I didn't know that about Shakespeare. Thanks. Pope probably also deserves capitalization. "

I am humbled--I really thought that was Shakespeare. Please accept my apologies; I spoke too soon. (But that's the first time I've ever done that. Really...)

Dan
on Feb 10, 2007